I now pronounce you Husband and Wife: All about our big day, honeymoon and plans for the future.

Mrs Webster here...

Hello again my beautiful readers! It has been a whole month since my last post went up! I am so sorry it has took me so long to publish another post for you guys but as you will all know if you have been following my social media and blog page, Reece (my partner of 6 years and father of our magnificent daughter Ella-Grace) and I got married!! So I am officially a wife, Mrs Webster. Still getting used to the whole idea of being married but at the same time it feels like nothing has changed except I have a different ring on my finger and my stress levels have gone down since the wedding planning is out the way haha. On the run up to the day I was full of excitement and also tears, almost pulling my hair out over our budget (because it was just a small budget which I am going to do a separate blog post on) BUT it was all worth it and apart from our little Ella-Grace not feeling well, it was a perfect day! I am so happy that after a three year engagement we are finally married. I am so happy to be Reece's wife and as far as I know he is happy to be my Husband. 

I am going to do a series of wedding themed blog posts from how to plan a wedding on a small budget to my top tips for the big day but for just now I am basically going to give to a summary of the wedding day, share some pictures (not professional ones as we have not got them back yet), tell you about our honeymoon plans and what we are looking forward to doing in the upcoming future as a married couple. I know that a lot of you love the posts I write that are basically just life updates so for those people, here is just that ready and waiting for you to read. I hope you like hearing about the best day of our lives (apart from Ella-Grace being born of course. Happy reading everyone! 

The week of the wedding...

The week before the wedding can be described it two words: stressful and exciting. The most upsetting thing was that Ella-Grace was not feeling well, we put it down to teething and hayfever, and that was always my worst nightmare when it came to the wedding. Also the planning was driving me crazy and I felt like I still had so much to do and obviously so little time left. There were people cancelling, people that hadn't got back to us, problems with table cloths (they had red..not white like we asked for..our theme was pink) and my the price of my wedding dress alterations were sky high! But among all this stress that was making my brain go mad there was excitement of course especially when it came to the 20th of June (we got married on the 22nd) because I went to my Mum and Dad's house and Reece had Ella-Grace, this was my time to finally relax and chill out before the hectic two days to follow this. So yeah on the 20th I got to relax with my family and watch some films which was much needed because I had been a crazy bridezilla for like 2 weeks not going to lie. 

The day before the wedding...

The day before the wedding, my sister (also my maid of honor) and I got our hair done. I had not touched my hair for 6 months which is long for me so I was so excited for this and they did an amazing job, the perfect colour for the wedding and for my dress. So at this point I was pretty relaxed and my sister and I then went to some lunch followed by a spray tan. Living the pampered life and loving it. Later in the day, once we were back in Aberdeen, is when we got busy! Ella-Grace still wasn't feeling great so of course she was top priority, bridesmaids started to arrive at our flat because they were staying with me over night and we had to go an decorate our reception venue. My lovely bridesmaid watched a very fussy Ella-Grace, I hated leaving her but I needed to decorate and practice our first dance. Luckily she did settle for my bridesmaid and and after 3 hours, the decor was done, the buffet food was stored, our dance was practiced for the last time and our wedding cake was revealed to us. My mum made it as a wedding present for us and came the night before to set it up, it was magical!! I will insert pictures below. 

This is when Reece and I parted ways as he went off to meet his best man, groomsmen and friends at his hotel room and I went back home to my bridesmaids and my poorly baby girl. Thankfully Ella-Grace was asleep and we got to watch some movies (Bridesmaids and Bridewars- what else?!), snack and talk about the wedding. This is also when I gave out the bridesmaid gifts including our pjs which I thought were super cute. 

It got to 2am and we all finally decided to go to bed but Ella-Grace had other ideas and she kept me up till 4am (keeping in mind that the make up artist was coming at 6am) but oh well she is worth it and I knew that the adrenaline and excitement would keep me going. 

The morning of the wedding...

It's almost 6am, we all just woke up and the make up artist is on her way. ITS WEDDING DAY!!!!!! Ella-Grace is still asleep and so the bridesmaids and I all have breakfast, chat and the getting ready begins...

Cuddles with Mama 

Reading the letter Reece wrote to me for the morning of our wedding 

The getting ready process (this being me, my 3 bridesmaids, maid of honor, older sister, my mum, my niece, nephew and Ella-Grace of course) took us from 6am till about 1pm. Mostly I was excited but being a Mum I was aware Ella-Grace wasn't feeling well which made me a bit upset but knowing my Mum would be with her the whole time, I managed to relax a little bit (beside the nerves I was experiencing for the ceremony of course). I think we all looked amazing, we were all so happy with the hair and make up and my mum was speechless when she saw me in my dress- this was a cute moment. 

Bridesmaid Dresses

Mother of the Bride

THE DRESS

After all this photo taking everyone started to go in small groups. My older sister left first with my Mum and the kids, then my bridesmaids and maid of honor left together and then finally my Dad arrived, we had our little moment when he seen me in my dress which we are happy we got on video and then we waited for our car to arrive to take us to the ceremony.

Funny story while we waited my Dad had a coffee and I took a quick selfie (the one you seen at the start) but then... I realised I needed to pee... so yeah I went to the bathroom myself in my massive dress... not going to be tmi but in a very strange position I did manage to go to the bathroom unaided haha! It was just after this that the car arrived and I had to attempt the flight of stairs from my flat to the door where the car was- this being good practice for the ceremony as I also had to walk down the stairs then. And off we went in the car to the ceremony, ready to marry the love of my life. My Dad and I had a nice chat with the driver and with each other, he gave me his best wedding advice- 'Never go to bed angry' which through all of mine and Reece's relationship I have said so I think that means we were already off to a good start. This car ride was a very special moment for me and my Dad and one I will never forget. 5 minutes early- the driver did ask if I wanted to be late and I said no haha- and we arrived at the Winter Gardens for our ceremony. All the tears started, last minute cuddles and before I knew it we were walking down the aisle. 

The ceremony...

My Handsome Groom or should I say, HUSBAND!

(We asked all the guests to have their phones off and to take no pictures or videos during the ceremony so there won't be any photos in this section- apart from the one above someone snapped before it was announced haha, will be sure to share on my social media when we get the professional photos back however) 

Honestly, I don't really know how to describe the ceremony... it was a whirlwind and it felt like it went so fast! I was full of excitement and nerves! The bridesmaids walked down the aisle first followed by my maid of honor/sister, then my niece and nephew (flower girl and page boy), then My Mum carrying my other flower girl, Ella-Grace of course and then me and my Dad. 

-side note when Reece and I first got engaged 3 years ago I told him a song that meant a lot to me was Wanted by Hunter Heyes and I would love to walk down the aisle to that. During all the wedding planning I completely forgot about that song and we decided Reece would pick the song as a surprise and that was the one he chose. He remembered it over our 3 year engagement and considering he is an extremely forgetful person and not always sentimental so it meant a lot that he remembered that song.-

So much was going through my head when I was seeing everyone else start to walk down the aisle. Will I fall? Will I manage the stairs? Will Ella-Grace be crying through the ceremony? Will I mess up the vows? So much thoughts! But as we walked down the aisle I just got emotional and had to take some deep breaths especially when I saw Reece. I was so glad to have my Dad by my side in this moment, he helped me walk in the big dress and even held my flowers at one point and also kept telling me to breath. Appreciate my Dad so much. As I got closer to the end of the aisle and saw Reece's face I almost couldn't believe my eyes. He was crying, not just a few tears but properly crying. I had never seen him so emotional and it even made me stop crying because I felt like I needed to be the stable one haha. It really showed how much he cared for me, .loved me and obviously how happy he was. As he lifted my veil with the help of my Dad, he told me I looked beautiful. This was one of the best moments of my entire life and ironically as the lyrics of the song said, in this moment I really felt wanted and I knew I was marrying the right man. *Pause for happy tears haha* 

The ceremony started with my Dad reading a short passage I had wrote myself. I was not doing a speech at the reception so I really wanted to do my part in a way and in corparate my passion which is writing in our wedding. This is what I wrote:   I wanted it to reflect us as a young couple embarking on the journey of marriage and what I think we should work on/remember through out our years together. I think everyone like it! Please let me know what you think. 

Following this reading was the vows- which is the part I was very nervous about- Reece went first and said them perfectly! I went next and I think I sounded a bit crazy to be honest haha one minute I was saying them fine, the next minute I was holding back tears to mumble the words I needed to repeat but oh well I got through them, that's the main thing! Following this was the exchanging of the rings and the moment we had been waiting for, for 3 years... "You are now Husband and Wife, you may kiss the bride!" That moment was amazing and gave each other the biggest hug and kiss! Both quietly saying to each other "We did it!!"
The registrar then continued to do a 2nd reading that we allowed her to choose which was a bit funnier and shown the lighter funny side of marriage as well as things you are likely to go through. It made everyone laugh which was nice. We then signed the marriage paperwork, got a celebratory drink and everyone came round to congratulate us. I felt beautiful (despite the tan marks that were already on my dress- it was very hot in the Winter gardens!), I felt loved and most of all super happy!!! It felt surreal that we actually made it and were now a married couple! 
Our lovely photographer then whisked us away to get all the photos taken and she managed to get all the ones we asked for and more. When it got closer to 4pm everyone lined up outside ready to throw confetti as we walked to the car- I cannot wait to see those pictures. It was a magical moment. 

Car ride...

Finally Reece and I had a chance to talk by ourselves and take in the fact that we just got married! We told each other about our morning, talked about the letter we wrote each other, took some selfies and just lived in the moment to be honest. We were (and still are) on cloud 9! I felt so complete to FINALLY be married to the love of my life and I know he felt the same. Then we arrived at the reception venue to be greeted by my Dad who then introduced us to the guests as Mr and Mrs Webster- yet again another stand out moment of the day where I heard my new last name said for the first time. 

Reception...

This post is already quite long and as much as I know how much you would like to know exactly what I ate and what times I went to the bathroom haha I think I will just give you a summary. So when we first walked in after my Dad introduced us to the room, Ella-Grace ran to us. She had obviously been with my Mum and probably felt like she had not seen us so before we even went to our seats we just had a little family cuddle on the dance floor. Yes, it was our wedding day but Ella-Grace is always our main priority especially since she was unwell, making sure she was okay and happy was the most important thing. 

We then all went to sit down and Ella-Grace fell asleep in her pram so I got to relax. The speeches started (My Dad, my Bridesmaid, My Sister/Maid of Honor, the Best man and of course the Groom). All of them did an amazing job- my Dad did his whole speech in an Irish accent, my Bridesmaid wrote us a poem, my Sister was her usual show-woman self and made the whole room laugh, the Best man managed to wing it but do an amazing job and my darling Reece, bless him, had the whole room in tears- I was so happy with all the speeches and so thankful that the microphone worked. 

We then ran into some trouble as the food was late unfortunately so we decided to cut the cake first. 

-side note: My Mum made a vegan wedding cake and cupcakes for us and oh my goodness it was beautiful! Looked beautiful and the three different flavors were so yummy! She also added a personal touch by putting Blackpool tower on top of the wedding cake which is where Reece and I got engaged and on the cupcakes put either an iced thistle or a clover to represent both where Reece was born (Scotland) and where I was born (Northern Ireland). I love it and appreciated all my Mum's hard work. -

After cutting the cake, we decided while the hot food was getting cooked to put out the cold food which Reece's auntie had contributed so that everyone could start eating. This ended up working quite well and everyone almost got a two course buffet including cupcakes and wedding cake after. We had half vegan food and half non-vegan, which satisfied everyone (obviously if it was up to me it would of been all vegan but this is just what worked into our budget and pleased the guests). At this point Ella-Grace started to wake and had a little bit of food with me but was just not feeling it so, not going to lie, for a good few hours until my parents took her home I was no longer a Bride and just in full Mum mode. Which of course is fine, my baby needed me and I wanted to be there with her despite everyone offering help. Thankfully she did cheer up a bit before she had to go and we managed to get some cute family pictures and a little bit of a dance out of her. 

The first dance...

Our first dance was more than just your standard swaying. It was something we had worked on for around 8 or 9 weeks in our living room, partially copying the actual dance and partly choreographed ourselves. Our first dance song was 'Can I have this dance' by Zac Efron and Vanessa Hudgens from the film- did anyone guess it?- High School Musical. Yes, it's cheesy, yes, it was more choice than Reece's but the words meant a lot to both of us and we had SO MUCH FUN  dancing together on the run up to the wedding! Those will forever be some of my favourite memories, what's more romantic than dancing around your living room with your partner? Nothing that's what. 

We had managed to practice the first dance in the reception venue the night before the wedding- where there was a slight slip up because we weren't used to a proper dance floor that was a bit more slippery and I fell over during one of the spins haha. Luckily however, even though we weren't used to the big dress and it may of not looked as elegant as we had practiced, it went really well, we enjoyed ourselves and everyone seemed quite impressed, I want to do it again!

The wedding night...

So, after all the kids left (including Ella-Grace when she left with my parents) it was time to party.. although not going to lie, I felt emotional because Ella-Grace was ill but I knew she was in safe hands and with the help from my friends I pulled myself together and managed to enjoy the rest of the night. 

Lots of dancing, chatting and laughing. Not too much to drink but we all had a few, we were celebrating! And to end the night we got lifted up in the air by all our friends and it was amazing. 1am meant time to leave. I gave out some cake to everyone left at the end of the night and finally Reece and I returned to our new home (where we had not officially moved in yet but had the keys so were able to stay there over night). Which is where I collapsed on the sofa, posed for a picture and fell asleep haha! Reece then woke me up a bit later on to take me to bed (like the gentleman and loving husband he is). 

A moment for my Husband...

Before I go onto the honeymoon plans and what we hope for our future, I just want to take a moment to appreciate my wonderful Husband. There are no words to describe how lucky I am to have him! Reece, is the love of my life and the best Dad to Ella-Grace. Kind, smart, funny, loyal, kind, beautiful, supportive and one word I use all the time, respectful.. this is a very important quality to me after being treated badly in the past. He isn't a man who is afraid to show his feminine side or feels as a 'man' he has to be the one in charge or tell me what to do. He respects me as an individual, knowing I'm my own person and would never tell me what to do. In this day and age of equality and especially since we have a daughter that is what every man should be. Honestly, this is one of the most attractive things about him, we have the same values and morals and are both strong independant people. Which makes us one powerful couple. We hope to raise our daughter to be this and to smash those glass ceilings. I have grown so much as a person since I met Reece at 15 years old, been through a lot of highs and very low, lows.. he has always been a constant rock in my life. Keeping me steady and loving me even no matter what as I have done for him. We are unbreakable. This is true love. So sorry anyone out there who had an eye on my man, he is my husband now and I intend on keeping him haha. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH REECE! 

Soppy part over now onto the honeymoon plans...

Honeymoon plans...

Much to our appreciation, we got a lot of money for our honeymoon as a wedding gift because everyone knew we already lived together and without a little bit of help we probably wouldn't of even had a honeymoon. So after getting all the honeymoon money together, it ended up we had enough for a deposit on a belated honeymoon for us in September. 

We really wanted to go to Italy but that is very popular and all booked up. So Reece knew Turkey was good as he had been before and I really wanted to go to Greece so we decided to do both! A week away in Turkey and a day trip over to Greece. This will not only be our first holiday abroad together but my first holiday abroad EVER! Better get that passport sorted...

Moving house...

I never give myself a break and when I get something in my head I just have to do it! So yeah getting married and moving house in the space of a week... sounds like something I would do and I did! 

Literally the day after the wedding we started packing up all our stuff and as of the Saturday after the wedding we were moved into our new home thanks to the help of our family and friends. Goodbye first floor flat and hello 3 bedroom house with a garden! Great area, great neighbors, nice landlords.. just perfect for us! Now in the new home almost 2 weeks and all our boxes are unpacked and we are settled in. Ella-Grace did such an amazing job with this big change as well as moving into a toddler bed! She just found it all so exciting! Really good decision for our family. 

The future...

So, what does the future hold for Mr & Mrs Webster? Well of course we have our hands full with our little toddler princess and both of us having jobs (even though mine is work from home does not make the work load any less). We have our new home which I would like to add some other little touches to. Further into the future however I do see us having one more little one (NOT pregnant just saying in the future that is something we would like) and as for the rest, we will just have to see what happens I guess. I am really trying to focus on the here and now and be in the moment with my little family in our new home. Honestly if I could tell 14 year old me that this was my future, damn she would of cheered up a little bit haha! You never know what is round the corner, if I never went through some bad times I would never of gotten here. We aren't rich, we don't have the fanciest things but we have each other, we have a home, we have family and we have love. Personally, I think that is all you really need. Looking forward to a lifetime full of adventures as Mrs Webster. Bliss. 

Thanks for reading... 

That was quite long but I know you all wanted to hear about the wedding so there it is! I will really try to make sure that the next blog post isn't a whole month away! Just want to say thank you to all our friends and family who helped out with the wedding as we would not of even had a wedding if it wasn't for all the generosity! We are so thankful. 

As for the next blog posts, I have a few ideas for wedding themed posts but will try and break them up with some other ones, any ideas leave a comment or drop me a message on social media. 

Speaking of social media, if you want to see/read more about my life outside the blog then go and follow my instagram ( @laurajanelifex ) and like my facebook page ( LauraJaneLife), you will be sure to see some cute baby pictures. 

Thanks once again for reading! Lots of love from Mrs LauraJane Webster (still not used to my new name haha!) Until next time...

Stay Happy Everyone :) !  

Lets Talk About Veganism

(Choosing to be vegan means choosing not to consume or use any animal products) 

Finally it is here...

Hi everyone, I hope you are all doing well. I cannot believe we are in June already.. that is half way through 2018 and I get married this month! My life is crazy right now with all the wedding planning, working from home and being a stay at home mum as well as a bunch of other stuff I have had going on but that's all for another post. Today I am finally posting the HIGHLY requested post about being vegan. 

There was a small amount of interest in this topic for a while but it was when I started posting my 1 year post-partum weight loss pictures that I had so many people messaging me. How do I cut down on meat? How can I be vegan? What is a plant-based diet? What meal plan do you follow? I had so many messages I have felt compelled to write this post as this is clearly what you all would like to hear. I haven't really done much on veganism on the blog because I know it a lot of the time can spark some pretty heavy debates and I did not want any arguing on my blog. However, I do have some strong opinions on what I think is right and as most of you will know I am raising my own daughter on these views as well. I have been called crazy and even 'a bad parent' for raising a mini vegan but its all about being confident in what you know is best and if people really looked at the facts they would see it for themselves. But I am getting ahead of myself, lets just start with the basic question that I get asked everyday: Why did you go vegan? 

Why I went Vegan...

Would you believe that once upon a time I was not a vegan. I was a meat eating, dairy consuming, egg loving human being. I could not of been farther from being vegan and even found myself disagreeing with the views of people who were vegan. Spouting things I thought were facts but really were just things I had drummed into me by society because lets face it being vegan is not exactly the 'norm' (yet). 

So yes I was not raised vegan and for most of my life I was not vegan. My sister was actually the first person to introduce me to the world of veganism. She went vegetarian years ago and has been trying to transition into being vegan for a while. She would tell me all these horror stories and show me videos on farming and tell me facts about how we are affecting the environment by eating meat but I wouldn't listen and I would avoid watching those videos. I was blinded by what I thought was right and I am not afraid to say that I was indeed uneducated and ignorant about these facts. I have always viewed myself as a nice person, I would never intentionally cause harm to other people or be judge mental. I thought eating meat and animal products was something we had to do to survive which is why it was okay to harm the animals. But like I said I was wrong and when I cottoned onto this fact my views,my opinions and my life changed forever. 

It was through my pregnancy that I started to go off of meat due to my morning sickness, it just happened to be what food aversion I had. So through the pregnancy I did consume less meat but was not yet vegetarian or vegan although I was looking more and more into it. Soon through reading facts and seeing the harm a non plant based diet is doing to other living things as well as our environment I would feel guilt whenever I put a product in my mouth that was derived from animals. But it tasted good so I continued to do it.. then Ella-Grace was born and I looked at my actions through her eyes which is when it hit me. How can I teach my daughter to be a good person? How can I teach her to do the right thing when I am making choices in my life of which are wrong? How can I justify the cruelty that is eating meat and animal products? I can't because it is not justifiable. And finally I thought I wish when I was younger some one had told me exactly what I was eating, exactly how we as humans obtained meat and animal products, exactly how cruel and harmful that way of life is. I wish someone opened my eyes to a plant-based, cruelty free diet much sooner than I found it because it is much harder to give up all the things you are used to than to be vegan right from birth. So I stopped eating meat first, I decided I would cut down gradually because  it is of course a big lifestyle change when you are brought up on the total opposite. Then we found out Ella-Grace was dairy intolerant and that was it, no more dairy. I almost felt as if it was a sign that this was the right thing to do. Go vegan. Eggs was definitely the hardest thing for me to give up because I loved having boiled, poached, fried, scrambled, any kind of egg you could have for breakfast I loved and I even let Ella-Grace try a small bit of scrambled egg but I felt it was wrong and when I seen her come up in a rash following her consumption of egg, once again it re-affirmed my beliefs and that this was the right thing to do so that was it I was vegan. At least at home I was going out for food was a bit trickier but now over a year now since Ella-Grace was born and I am a full vegan- no animal products. Now and again I have had some slip ups, but for a while now I have had a strict vegan lifestyle for my health, for Ella-Grace, for the animals and for the planet. I am proud that I have managed to do it. So yeah that is why I went vegan. 

Vegan Myths Busted...

You cant eat out

True, it took me longer to be full vegan when eating out than eating vegan at home but that does not mean you cannot eat out. There is more temptation out and some places don't have vegan options and I think this was my first problem. When I wasn't vegan of course I went to the places that were not vegan friendly, this is what I needed to change. I needed to find places with vegan options and be opening to trying new meals or asking for things without the cheese or without butter etc. So as a vegan of course you can eat out and it is not difficult you just need to know the places that have vegan options and commit to going to those places. By saying know the places that have vegan options, that does not mean there are limited places either. In fact the bigger place you live in the more options there probably are. Luckily the world is catching up with the need for more plant-based food options and veganism is becoming more popular. Through this popular restaurants have added vegan options. For example Pizza hut now has the option of vegan pizza. There are more cafes and restaurants with vegan options than without nowadays and when I go out to eat there are less than a handful of places that I would avoid. Even KFC is bringing out vegan options now... so I think the 'you can't eat out' argument is out the window. And if you have family or friends that are not supportive of your lifestyle change and refuse to eat somewhere that you can have a decent meal then they are not very nice people. You aren't forcing them to eat vegan why should they try and force you to consume animal products?

Limited snack food 

"But what do you snack on?" and "What's your cheat food" are two questions that I have been asked often. I have asked how I can live without chocolate, ice cream, cake, pizza and all those unhealthy treat foods that we all love and the truth is.. I don't have to live without it. My 'cheat food' and snacks are exactly the same as yours just not made from animal products. A lot of dark chocolate is dairy free, milk and white chocolate can be made with plant milks, pizza does not have to have cheese or it can have dairy free cheese on it. The same goes for cake and ice cream and pretty much all the other treats that people enjoy, I can snack on that too it is just made with plant-based ingredients. Of course I am not saying they taste exactly the same and sometimes yes the animal product alternative may of tasted better but morally it is wrong and I get pleasure not only from the taste of my food but knowing that no living thing had to suffer or die for what I am eating. 

The food is tasteless 

Anyone that believes this myth or thinks all vegan's eat is grass and ice- yes people have actually said that to me- needs to come and taste my cooking because I promise you it is anything but tasteless. Vegetables have an abundance of flavor and work amazing with so many spices. There are so many beautiful tasting vegetables you just need to cook them right. People think of vegetables as a side dish instead of the star of the show but when you make them the star and focus your effort of making a meal out of them instead of just boiling some carrots on the side of a piece of meat. That is why people think they are tasteless because they don't explore their potential. You can stir fry them, make soup, make sauces, have pasta dishes or curry dishes. You can have tremendous salads and more. Later in the post I will put some meal ideas that I personally love so for now I will leave this here. 

It's unhealthy

This really does not make any sense to me. The amount of times people have said to me that I wont be getting enough protein, calcium, vitamins and more. I have been asked whether I regularly check my iron level and if I worry that I will become very ill and the answer is no. Of course there is an unhealthy way to be vegan, you can eat the wrong things but that is exactly same as not being vegan, you can eat the wrong things and be unhealthy. People are quick to jump on the bandwagon when someone says a plant-based diet is unhealthy but no one bats an eye when someone is stuffing there face with McDonalds and fizzy drinks everyday because that is acceptable in the eyes of society but yeah please worry that I am unhealthy from eating too many vegetables and no horrible animal products. 

The two pictures above are 1 year apart. The first picture is when I had just decided to go vegan and the second one was taken a year later when I had transitioned to full vegan. Size 14 to a size 8/6! I have never in my entire life felt and looked this healthy. When I first got pregnant with Ella-Grace before gaining any of the baby weight I was unhealthy and my medical tests at the start shown that, my BMI was so close to being a risk factor to my pregnancy. I consumed so much crap and even when I would be trying to eat healthy I would be having so much dairy and meat compared to the small amount of fruit and vegetables that I would not be losing weight. VEGETABLES AND FRUIT ARE KEY TO A HEALTHY DIET! They are not a side dish, they are the main attraction. Vegetables hold so much protein, calcium, vitamins, iron and more. Once I realised this and made my diet plant-based I had so much more energy, I lost almost 2 stone (which I needed to lose for my health) and I was so much happier and healthier. Even when I wanted to snack on some plant-based treats that weren't the healthiest because the rest of my diet is a healthy plant-based, vegetable fest those treats didn't matter- all in moderation still of course. I am no nutritionist but I know my own body and I would recommend everyone to live on a plant-based diet. More on this coming up. 

It's unsafe for children 

This one can really wind me up because I have actually had people refer to me as a bad mother because I have chosen to raise my daughter vegan. Even people who support my vegan lifestyle will tell me that they don't think it is healthy for children and that I could be harming her by raising her on no animal products. This once again is untrue. 

I have been sent links to articles titled like "Vegan diet kills baby" which is all uneducated crap and the title is only for click bait. The children who sadly lost their lives or became ill in these articles were because of neglect NOT because of a healthy plant-based diet and my wonderful Ella-Grace is an amazing example of how healthy a child can be on a plant-based diet. Ella-Grace has never digested any meat, she has only ever had dairy through my breast-milk when I was consuming it which we soon found out she was allergic to and eggs I let her try once when I was still eating them which made her come up in a rash. So ever since we started weaning her it has all been vegan and she has never been malnourished, underweight or unhealthy. She is actually slightly above average weight- which is not a bad thing. She is healthily chubby, strong and developing as she should despite all the comments I get about how I should be worrying that I am harming her. My choice to raise Ella-Grace vegan is no different to your choice to raise your child as a meat eater except of course our lifestyle is cruelty-free and environmentally friendly. No I am not worried about Ella-Grace's protein, calcium, iron or vitamin intake just as I am not worried about my own. if anything since becoming vegan I am more aware of what foods contain what nutrients and therefore I am feeding Ella-Grace healthier food than I ever would of as a meat eater. Like I have said vegetables are an amazing source of nutrients as are beans, pulses etc. and there are so many different plant-based milks to choose from which are not being taken away from any baby animals which you know is obviously a plus. Still worried about if my daughter is healthy? Please come over to my house and see her thriving, she is living proof that a vegan diet is perfectly safe and healthy for children and Ella-Grace is not the only one. 

Vegans push their views on others 

Yet again another annoying myth, I think you have probably gathered by now that I find all of these rather annoying. "Vegans push their views on other people" is the opinion that many people have meaning whenever someone even mentions veganism, even if the topic was brought up by someone else, they get blamed for being pushy. But let me ask you something, when was the last time you watched the TV and didn't see an advert containing an animal product? When was the last time you walked outside and didn't see posters for meat specials in restaurants? On menus are animal products in the majority of meal options? In school do you learn that you should have animal products? Society pressures you to eat animal products and put money towards the horrendous industry but yeah its the vegan that opened their mouth for 5 seconds that is pushy. 

I purposely do not bring up the fact that I am vegan to avoid confrontation unless it is appropriate for the conversation for example if someone offers me something with an animal product in it or Ella-Grace then I may explain that we are vegan. This then leads to them asking me why I am vegan to which I never respond in graphic details, I say the most basic reasons that I am vegan. To then be met with judging looks and snappy comments. I am not going to say there aren't more pushy vegans and yes some people will scream and shout if you eat a ham sandwich in front of them but in no way is it all us. In the grand scheme of things veganism is what is right in my opinion and it is always good to stick up for what is right. We teach our young ones to speak up for what they believe in and do the right thing and that is what a vegan is doing if and when they speak up about why they are living a plant-based diet. Instead of rolling your eyes and blaming them for pushing this idea on you, maybe listen to what they have to say and you might learn something new. 

It is expensive 

I have never tried to act like someone I am not on my blog. I tell the truth and that includes documenting some of the money struggles we as a family have had. Through some of these times where we have been tight on money however not once did it come to my head that damn better go back to eating animal products because being vegan is so expensive. Meat is expensive, cheese is expensive... vegetables, rice, bread, beans and pulses are not expensive. Yes, you can go for the more expensive vegan options, some of the meat substitutes can be  pricey but this is not a must in a vegan diet, those are a choice. Once again, just like a non vegan you just need to know where to shop, how to budget and how to plan your meals. I actually think I spend less money on my food shopping now than I ever did when I was not a vegan. Don't believe me? Look at the statistics above. 

Veganism doesn't really help the environment 

Farming is the biggest reason for climate change. Need I say more? Anyone that does not believe that eating animal products affects our environment could not be more wrong. When I say to someone that being vegan is environmentally friendly they look at me as if I am mad thinking eating meat has nothing to do with climate change but it 100% does, just look at the picture above and you will see the facts. It is astonishing to me that this is not taught in schools, its all well and good having Math and English but without our planet, we are non-existentent... literally, Once I explain to someone why eating animal products is bad for the environment I am almost always met with arguments such as but plastic is bad too and so if palm oil and oh well we cut down trees for other things not just to farm animals. People say these things to justify their actions, keeping themselves in the state of ignorance is bliss. But no matter what way you put it, you can recycle all the plastic you want but the best way to help our environment and save our planet is to live a vegan lifestyle. 

We need animal products to survive

I really don't need to say much for this one do I. I mean look at the picture above.. that is my daughter and I clearly surviving and living a healthy life on a plant-based diet with no animal products. Ella-Grace never even having meat or dairy pass her lips. I honestly do not know what can say it better than the clear proof that we are living breathing humans who do not eat animal products and we are fine. You do not need to have meat. People try to argue that because lions eat meat so should we... no, there is more proof that we are herbivores than omnivores and lions kill, rip and swallow there meat raw, not have it factory farmed and cooked to avoid food poisoning. If you are going down the line that we are the same as Lions then why are we all wearing clothes and walking round with phones in our hands. That argument is simply invalid and protein can be obtained from many plant-based sources. As for cows milk, which I find is what everyone freaks out about most, tell them your vegetarian fine but vegan.. OMG HOW CAN YOU SURVIVE WITHOUT COWS MILK! Calm down, cows milk is more baby cows not for humans but for some reason the world thinks that we need it? Honestly that makes no sense to me. There are so many plant-based milks for calcium and an abundance of vegetables that hold the same amount of calcium, you do not need cows milk. Society just likes to drum that into us so the dairy industry can still make money well sorry to disappoint but I am not putting any of my money to an industry that rapes cows, steals their children and works them to death. As for eggs, yeah they again are not needed in our diet and I do not fancy eating chicken period. 

It is simple really... if I can live a life not harming another creature why wouldn't I. 

What I like to eat/meal plan ideas...

Vegan lasagne

I am not going to do full on recipes here because this blog post is already long enough but if there is something you really want me to post then just let me know and I will be sure to type up the recipe. Here I am going to put an example of a meal plan for me and one for Ella-Grace. Might give you guys who are hopefully now thinking of going vegan an idea of what yours and/or your child's meal plan could be like. 

Ella-Grace

Breakfast- Cup of water or plant-based milk (we like soy milk or have recently tried hemp). Toast with dairy free butter. Weetabix made with plant-based milk. 

Morning snack- Apricots, cherry tomatoes and rice cakes. Cup of water. 

Lunch- Falafel salad with vegan cheese. (Falafel, tomatoes, sweetcorn, lettuce, onion, mushroom, spincach, vegan cheese). Cup or water or plant-based milk.

Afternoon snack- free-from yoghurt and carrot sicks with hummus. Cup of water.

Supper- Tofu bolognase (minced tofu, chopped mushrooms, onions, tomatoes and spinach) with spaghetti, boiled veg and dairy-free garlic bread. Cup of plant-based milk. 

Me

Breakfast- Cup of tea (made with plant-based milk) and a two slices of fruit toast with dairy-free butter. 

Lunch- Vegetable stir fry with wholewheat noodles. Glass of water or juice. 

Supper- Vegan sausage (Lind McCartney brand is amazing) and sweet potato mash with boiled veg. Glass of water or juice. 

Snacks- cherry tomatoes, toast, veg crisps, tortilla chips and salsa etc. 

(Ella-Grace and I have the same meals now so these meal plans could work for either adult or child just have to be prepared slightly differently) 

Top tips...

Many of you who messaged me, especially after I posted my weight loss pic, wanted some tips on how to cut down on animal products and wanted some meal ideas. So the meal ideas are above and as for tips here they are, my top 10. 

1. Cut down one thing at a time

When animal products are the majority of your diet cutting them all out at once may not work for you and make your more likely to go backwards and indulge in them. By all means if you are confident in cutting it all out at once and already have a vegan meal plan in place you can do that. But for those who think they may find it difficult you can cut one thing out at a time and aim towards that goal of being free from animal products. So for me meat was the first thing I cut out which I found quite easy because I wasn't a massive meat eater anyways and from being pregnant it made me feel quite sick. The one thing I did crave was salmon and I think I dipped once and had some but I felt so sick after it put me off even more and I never ate meat again. Now I would never, ever touch meat, being vegetarian was the easy part for me. The next thing I cut out was dairy which would of been difficult if I was just doing it for myself but because Ella-Grace was breastfed and very allergic to dairy if I consumed it I would of made her ill and she is my main priority so I cut dairy out quite quickly although once she wasn't breast-fed I have had a few dips, I would go weeks and weeks with no dairy then I would be at my parents and have some cheese or something which I would then regret, feel sick 'and once again not have dairy for weeks. It has been a while now with no dips and after watching a video the other day on the dairy industry.. I don't think I will ever dip again. Eggs and honey was the final two things I cut out. Eggs were hard because I had them every single day but the more i thought of them as chicken period and how the chickens have to suffer for them, I soon cut that out too. As for honey that wasn't difficult to cut out, I never bought it anyways it was more not buying products that had honey in them such as cereals. So yes, tip number 1 cut down one thing at a time and you will soon get there. 

2. Be open to trying new things

If you are set in your ways and do not want to try any new things then it is going to be difficult for you to change your entire lifestyle. Using fake meats is fine and can help you transition easier but ultimately the best meals to have are ones that are made fully of vegetables. Before I was vegan I had never tried butternut squash, kidney beans, hummus, chickpeas, sesame seeds, chia seeds, tofu, plant-based milk.. there are so many new foods I have come across since becoming vegan and they are so tasty and healthy. When I first bought a block of tofu I looked at it and thought there was no way I was going to like it but keeping an open mind and I cooked and ate it and now it is probably one of my favourite things to eat and it is a great source of calcium, Keep an open mind and don't be afraid to try something new. 

3. Don't view vegetables as the enemy

Sort of similar to tip 2, don't be afraid of vegetables they are not the enemy. From when we are little we are told to eat our vegetables that are boringly boiled and left on the side of our plate. We see vegetables as this yucky thing that we have to eat but that is not the case. They have so much flavor and can be cooked in so many different ways so utilise that. Buy a cook book or google a recipe. Make your vegetables the part of your meal that you cannot wait to eat and show your kids this too. Ella-Grace will pretty much inhale a good vegetable stir fry because that is the main thing on her plate and that is what she finds yummy. No more 'you have to eat your vegetables', you need to want to eat and enjoy them. 

4. Find an alternative

Craving something that contains animal products? Think you might cave? Find an alternative. If you want chocolate, get dark or dairy free. If you want meat, find a substitute. If you want cheese, there an abundance of dairy-free cheeses for you to try. If you want a fry up, why not try scrambled tofu. I am forever craving garlic bred and nachos, they are my two favourite snack foods and I have found vegan alternatives to both of these so now when I crave them I am craving the plant-based version. Yes sometimes it will be a miss and you will still have that craving but stay strong, remember why you are doing it and try another alternative. 

5. Be confident in your beliefs

As soon as you go vegan, everyone is a nutritionist. Eat fast food in front of people no one bats an eye as soon as you have a vegan meal then you are crazy and unhealthy. Be prepared for the judgmental comments, closed minded arguments and the peer pressure to 'just eat normal'. You have to be strong and confident, know what you believe in and stick to it. They can disagree with you and even think you are completely wrong but you know what you believe and that is what matters. 

6. Join vegan groups

Always a good idea I think. Joining a group of other vegans on facebook really helped me transition into going vegan and even more a vegan baby led weaning group made me confident that I was doing the right thing by Ella-Grace. I had support and seen so many other Mothers and babies who were thriving on a vegan diet and if anyone in my personal life tried to say that no one could survive on a vegan diet I would have the 100's of people in my Facebook groups as proof that wasn't true. You can get helpful advice, recipes and support, really worth joining a group. 

7. Go to an animal sanctuary

Go and see the animals you are saving. Unfortunately there are many farms around where we live that we could visit but not many animal sanctuaries. I do not want to take Ella-Grace to a farm nor do I want to go to a farm for obvious reasons but animal sanctuaries where the animals are saved from death, neglect and abuse are amazing, They are not used for anything just looked after. Willows animal sanctuary I think is an amazing example of this. They even have pigs and chickens that have been saved from the slaughterhouse. I will continue to take Ella-Grace there, I want to show her the animals she is saving and show her that they are living breathing creatures just like us. So if you find yourself craving bacon, go and see a pig and I would hope seeing that creature who so clearly wants to live would put that thought right out of your head. 

8. Do your research and make a list

Being vegan is not difficult, it is now second nature to me but when that is not your way of life and you do not know how to get what you need via a plant-based diet, it is good to do your research and make a list of what foods have what nutrients. Once you have done this you will know what to put into your diet to keep you healthy and I bet you will be way healthier than before you were vegan because you are actually paying attention to what you are putting in your body rather than going with the norm and just eating what society says is right. 

9. Have supportive people around you

If you have friends who won't go somewhere to eat that there are vegan options and try judge your decision, these are not the people you want in your life. Since going vegan I have had mostly support and even when I have had debates on it they have been friendly and respectful. I have made many of my friends re-think their diet through telling them about being vegan because they are open minded and are interested in what I have to say. Anyone that tries to act like your wrong or unhealthy and are too ignorant to listen to what you have to say or at least leave you be, they do not need to be in your life. Only surround yourself with good vibes. 

10. Health not weight loss

As for the weight loss side of things, yes I lost a lot of weight since becoming vegan which has made me so much fitter and healthier but I was not focusing on the weight-loss, I was focusing on my health and Ella-Grace's. I felt unhealthy before going vegan and once I had transitioned and all those amazing vegetables were in my body I had so much more energy and felt so much happier and the weight just dropped off. If I had focused on just the weight loss I probably would of gave up a long time ago. Do it for your health, for the environment and for the animals, do it to set a good example to your child and keep them healthy. It took me over a year after having Ella-Grace to get to the dress size I am now and I didn't even notice because I was happy with how healthy my body was rather than the way it looked and what the scales said. Self-love is important. 

True Facts and Images (caution the truth hurts)...

This is the truth. I could of gone through and added a lot more images, some so gruesome you may of been sick but I could hardly look at them and it makes me so upset seeing the suffering. I have put in a few and hopefully these are all you need to make you open your eyes. As well as these images here are some things you may want to watch/read to know more about why going vegan is a good idea:

https://www.youtube.com/DAIRYISSCARY

https://www.petakids.com/food/kids-vegan-nutrition-guide/

http://www.firststepsnutrition.org/pdfs/Eating_well_for_veg_infants_for_web.pdf

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PMklOB77myw

https://edition.cnn.com/2017/04/08/opinions/go-vegan-save-the-planet-wang/index.html

https://www.peta.org/issues/animals-used-for-food/factory-farming/

(I do not own these images)

Vegan inspirations

Still not convinced and think I don't know what I am talking about? Or just want to see some more people living on a vegan diet/living a vegan a lifestyle, here are some people that inspire me. 

Instagram accounts: 

@whatpoppyeats @plantbasedrunningguy 
@sophie.bullimore
@raiseveganmagazine 
@thatnorthernvegan

Facebook Groups: 
Vegan Baby Led Weaning 

Thank you for reading...

That was a long one! I hope this lived up to everyone's expectations and I am sorry if it seemed like a rant but I feel very strongly about this and when you get judged everyday for a decision that is helping others and you get the chance to let it all out, you just do haha. I hope this has encouraged someone who is not vegan to at least re-think some of their diet. I hope this has open your eyes to some important information that you may not know. 

Go vegan for the environment, for the animals, for our children and for your health. Do what is right. Please no arguments in the comments. You may disagree but there is no need to be rude to each other. Comment below if you are vegan and you have something to add or if you have any more questions message me. I would really like some feedback from this blog post as so many of you asked for me to write it. I hope you enjoyed reading this. Love all my readers so much. Till next time. 

Stay Happy Everyone :)